We often question or self worth how important is our self worth actually?
Depth of what? The cross, Christ love for you? That is worth far more than we deserve. When negative thoughts being to surface crush them under foot with the truth you know ✝️
It’s very important why cause Jesus saw our self worth on that cross when he gave is own sinless life for it would you be seeing yourself hung upon that cross could you see yourself dying for a friend or even a stranger answer would most likely be no bit your self worth is seen by Christ that he gave his very life for our self worth that same self worth we found ourselves questioning You are worth far more than you believe. You’re greater than you can imagine
The Bible even goes in it’s own explanation about self worth
What Does 1 Peter 3:4 Mean? ►
but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God.
1 Peter 3:4(NASB)
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Although Peter deals with the general conduct of Christian men and women in their church fellowships and wider communities, he also gives specific advice to different groups of believers, and in this passage addresses the conduct and character of wives and the relationship they should foster with their husbands.
First, he advises them to be submissive, chaste, and respectful towards their men, because godly behaviour and a gracious attitude will more quickly win love, respect, and praise, than paying meticulous attention to having beautifully braided hair, adorning oneself in golden jewellery, or dressing-up in expensive clothes.
Peter not only addresses the need for outer modesty and to avoid ostentatious behaviours or the excessive pinning-on of trinkets, he taught the importance of developing an inner beauty, which is a lasting and a godly characteristic and is of rare value in God’s eyes. He encourages these women to beautify, “the hidden person of the heart,” and explains that inner beauty is expressed, “with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit – which is very precious in the sight of God.”
This verse lists the things that made a wife most attractive and appealing to her husband, and Peter calls it, “the hidden person of the heart.” The beauty and virtue that comes from within and honours the Lord, flows from the heart of a gentle and tranquil spirit and far surpasses any allurement that might be triggered through some outer adornment of the body.
All women should seek to develop this inner beauty of the soul which only comes as the fruit of the Spirit begins to bud, blossom, and grow. A gentle and quiet spirit which is precious in God’s sight, will not only win the heart of their husband but is a quality that is lasting and will not fade away.
Peter is not advocating that women should be careless in their grooming and not take care of their outer appearance. He is not advocating that wives should be shoddy and unkempt, but that they value the things that develop a godly character which is not only attractive to their spouse but is also well-pleasing to God.
No amount of make-up or outer preening can develop the precious fruit of the Spirit which is so treasured by the Lord. No wardrobe of expensive clothes will compensate for a jealous, spiteful, or bitter nature. No perfume can mask an unforgiving heart and no amount of jewellery can embellish mean-hearted women or prevent them from murmuring or being discontented.
The spiritual fruit of gentleness, goodness, kindness, and grace, comes from a tender heart that honours the Lord. The imperishable qualities that are so precious in the eyes of God are the ones that every husband desires to see in his wife and every woman should nurture. They are born out of a submissive and respectful spirit which is at peace with God and owns the peace of God in her heart – because she trusts in Him.
May the desire of every Christian wife be to develop the wife be to develop the inner beauty of her heart in her marriage – knowing that this is honouring to the Lord. May each one of us who are born from above similarly seek to foster the same internal qualities of heart and mind – the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious in the sight of God.
How should a Christian view self-esteem?
Many define self-esteem as “feelings of worth based on their skills, accomplishments, status, financial resources, or appearance.” This kind of self-esteem can lead a person to feel independent and prideful and to indulge in self-worship, which dulls our desire for God. James 4:6 tells us that “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” If we only trust in our earthly resources, we will inevitably be left with a sense of worth based on pride. Jesus told us, “You also, when you have done everything you were told to do, should say, ‘We are unworthy servants; we have only done our duty’” (Luke 17:10).
This does not mean that Christians should have low self-esteem. It only means that our sense of being a good person should not depend on what we do, but rather on who we are in Christ. We need to humble ourselves before Him, and He will honor us. Psalm 16:2 reminds us, “I said to the Lord, ‘You are my Lord; apart from you I have no good thing.’” Christians attain self-worth and esteem by having a right relationship with God. We can know we are valuable because of the high price God paid for us through the blood of His Son, Jesus Christ.
In one sense, low self-esteem is the opposite of pride. In another sense, low-self-esteem is a form of pride. Some people have low self-esteem because they want people to feel sorry for them, to pay attention to them, to comfort them. Low self-esteem can be a declaration of “look at me” just as much as pride. It simply takes a different route to get to the same destination, that is, self-absorption, self-obsession, and selfishness. Instead, we are to be selfless, to die to self, and to deflect any attention given to us to the great God who created and sustains us.
The Bible tells us that God gave us worth when He purchased us to be His own people (Ephesians 1:14). Because of this, only He is worthy of honor and praise. When we have healthy self-esteem, we will value ourselves enough to not become involved in sin that enslaves us. Instead, we should conduct ourselves with humility, thinking of others as better than ourselves (Philippians 2:3). Romans 12:3 warns, “Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the measure of faith God has given you.”
What does the Bible say about self-love, loving self?
Love as described in the Bible is quite different from the love as espoused by the world. Biblical love is selfless and unconditional, whereas the world’s love is characterized by selfishness. In the following passages, we see that love does not exist apart from God and that true love can only be experienced by one who has experienced God’s own love firsthand:
Romans 13:9–10, “The commandments, ‘Do not commit adultery,’ ‘Do not murder,’ ‘Do not steal,’ ‘Do not covet,’ and whatever other commandment there may be, are summed up in this one rule: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ Love does no harm to its neighbor. Therefore love is the fulfillment of the law.”
John 13:34–35, “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”
1 John 4:16–19, “And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in him. In this way, love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment, because in this world we are like him. There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. We love because he first loved us.”
The statement “love your neighbor as yourself” is not a command to love yourself. It is natural and normal to love yourself—it is our default position. There is no lack of self-love in our world. The command to “love your neighbor as yourself” is essentially telling us to treat other people as well as we treat ourselves. Scripture never commands us to love ourselves; it assumes we already do. In fact, people in their unregenerate condition love themselves too much—that is our problem.
In Jesus’ parable of the Good Samaritan, there was only one who showed himself to be a true neighbor to the man in need: the Samaritan (Luke 10:30–37). There were two others, a priest and a Levite, who refused to help the man in need. Their failure to show love to the injured man was not the result of loving themselves too little; it was the result of loving themselves too much and therefore putting their interests first. The Samaritan showed true love—he gave of his time, resources, and money with no regard for himself. His focus was outward, not inward. Jesus presented this story as an illustration of what it means to love one’s neighbor as one’s self (verse 27).
We are to take our eyes off ourselves and care for others. Christian maturity demands it. “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others” (Philippians 2:3–4). According to this passage, loving others requires humility, a valuing of others, and a conscious effort to put others’ interests first. Anything less than this is selfish and vain—and falls short of the standard of Christ.
None of this should be taken to mean that we should see ourselves as “worthless.” The Bible teaches that we are created in the image of God, and that fact alone gives us great worth (see Luke 12:7). The balanced, biblical view is that we are God’s unique creation, loved by God in spite of our sin, and redeemed by Christ. In His love, we can love others.
We love others based on God’s abiding love for us in Christ. In response to this love, we share it with all whom we come in contact with—our “neighbors.” Someone who is worried that he doesn’t love himself enough has the wrong focus. His concern, biblically, should be his love for God and his love for his neighbor. “Self” is something we want out of the way so that we can love outwardly as we ought.
What does the Bible say about self-image?
Image is always dependent upon perspective. Poor vision or a cloudy mirror can greatly affect how we perceive ourselves (1 Corinthians 13:12). Without an objective standard by which to measure ourselves, our self-image will be blurred (1 Corinthians 4:3–4). The Bible provides guidance regarding the appropriate view of our self-image.
All people are created in the image of God (Genesis 1:26–27). Because of this, each person is of great worth and value.
All people are greatly loved by God. Romans 5:8 declares, “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” God’s love also gives us worth and value.
The Bible also tells us that every person is sinful. Romans 3:23 teaches that all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. We are sinful by nature (Psalm 51:5) and in practice (Ecclesiastes 7:20). Ephesians 2:1 says that, before salvation, we are “dead in . . . transgressions and sins”; verse 3 says that “we were by nature deserving of wrath.”
Because of our sin, we are in need of a Savior to forgive our sins and restore our relationship with God. Fortunately, God loved the world so much that He sent His only Son, so whoever believes in Him will have eternal life (John 3:16). Our salvation is not the result of our goodness but of God’s grace: “Because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy, made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in transgressions—it is by grace you have been saved” (Ephesians 2:4–5).
Those who have believed in Jesus become new creations. Second Corinthians 5:17 teaches, “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!” Verse 21 says, “God made him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God.” Though we were once destined for wrath, in Christ we are made new. Our primary identity is no longer that of a sinner, but that of a forgiven and justified child of God (see John 1:12).
As believers, we still sin, yet we are offered continued forgiveness, and we continue to grow in the Lord, by grace (1 John 1:9; Romans 8:29). We continue to struggle with various temptations and desires but are now free from bondage to sin and death (Romans 6:1–14; Galatians 5:1).
John 1:12 tells us that we become children of God through faith in Jesus Christ. Ephesians 1:3–14 details some of the spiritual blessings we have in Christ. Our identity is to be found in Him (Colossians 3:3). Our self-image should be founded on who God says we are. Yes, we were sinners, and we still battle against our sinful flesh, but, if we are in Christ, we are beloved children. We are secure—completely known, completely forgiven, and wholly loved by God, the very Creator of our souls. We are no longer condemned (Romans 8:1), and we need not condemn ourselves (1 John 3:19–24). By faith, we can be conquerors (Romans 8:31–37), and nothing can separate us from God’s love (Romans 8:38–39).
Our self-image should not be inflated by human pride (Philippians 2:3–4) nor devastated by the reality of sin. Right self-image is having humility in the sight of God (1 Peter 5:6–11; James 4:4–10). Right self-image is understanding our great need for God and His great love for us. It is rejoicing in His truth and living aware of our value to Him and our identity in Jesus Christ (Galatians 4:6–7; Romans 8:14–17). “For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known” (1 Corinthians 13:12). One day, we will be with God in heaven, fully restored and with clear vision of who He is and who we are in Him.