Day 32: The husband should give his wife what she deserves as his wife. And the wife should give her husband what he deserves as her husband. (1 Corinthians 7:3)
The man who becomes husband should provide to all needs of his wife giving her what she deserves as his very own wife. The wife as well should give her husband what he needs and deserves just the same as her husband they are committed by spirit, faith, love and guidance no longer separated as ones own
1 Corinthians 7:3, NLT: “The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs.”
1 Corinthians 7:3, CSB: “A husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise a wife to her husband.”
What Does 2 Corinthians 7:3 Mean? ►
I do not speak to condemn you, for I have said before that you are in our hearts to die together and to live together.
2 Corinthians 7:3(NASB)
Paul’s first epistle to the Corinthian church, concentrated on teaching and correction, whilst his second letter is more pastoral, and exposes the deep love Paul has for these people. It shows the concern he shows for their spiritual welfare, and the establishment in their faith.
Paul’s first communication concentrated on correction, while the focus of this second message is on comfort, victory in the cross and the sufficient grace that is ours in Christ. It reminds us of our eternal perspective, our future inheritance, our labour in the Lord and the rewards that are promised to those that die to self and live for Christ.
It talks of the glory and grace we have, through the indwelling Spirit of God, and the wisdom and power that comes from our Father in heaven – and it encourages us to endeavour to keep the unity of the Body – for which we should seek after and strive for, in the power of the Holy Spirit.
Paul knew that the serious chastisement and constructive correction he was obliged to deliver in his earlier writings, had significantly affected the morale of his Corinthian brothers and sisters, and it appears that the apostle was concerned that it had damaged their relationship, with one other. And in this section he is seeking to comfort them in the pain they had to endure, and to re-establish their close communion and mutual love, by commending them for their changed behaviour, and empathising with the hurt and suffering they had endured.
“Make room for us in your hearts,’ Paul writes, “we wronged no one, we corrupted no one and we took advantage of no one’. Paul’s reproof and correction in his earlier letter was for their spiritual benefit. It was to train them in righteousness, mature them in the faith, arrest their carnality and put them back on the path to spiritual growth, and so he wrote, I do not speak to condemn you, for I have said before that you are in our hearts – to die together and to live together.
Paul’s earlier correction may have pained these believers, but it did not stifle the deep love he had for this little flock. He was prepared to die for these Christians as well as to live for them. And so Paul was able to rejoice – not because they were made sorrowful, but because their sorrow brought them to godly repentance, which is our Father’s will for all His straying children.
Indeed, the sorrow that is according to the will of God, brings salvation.. i.e. it returns the backsliding believer into fellowship with our Father in heaven. In order to bring the gospel to these people, and to us, Paul himself, had to undergo terrible trials – but he found great joy when his corrective training brought spiritual fruit.
Paul provided these brothers and sisters in Christ with corrective teaching through the Word, and like them.. we should be ready to receive teaching, reproof, correction and training in righteousness, whenever it is necessary. Spiritual reproof comes to us in various ways – through increased familiarity with the Word of God, from brothers in the faith, and through a humble heart that has a teachable spirit. May we be ready and willing to receive reproof, correction and training in righteousness, for the glory of God, in our spiritual journey through life.
What does 1 Corinthians 7:3 mean?
Paul has rejected an idea, perhaps held by some of the Corinthians, that even married Christians should not have sex with each other. The statement made in verse 1 of this chapter seems to be a quote from the people of Corinth as posed to Paul: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.”
Instead, Scripture declares the exact opposite. Married people should have sex with their spouses because of the ongoing temptation to engage in sexual immorality.
Here, Paul makes this point more directly. Both spouses should fulfill the sexual rights that are due the other, the husband to his wife and the wife to her husband. As emphasized in verse 4, Christian marriage is to be understood as mutual surrender of oneself to meet the needs of the other person. Paul’s teaching here shows that God intends this surrender to include meeting the sexual needs of one’s spouse.
It’s important to note a few things. First, properly-functioning marriage is defined by the self-sacrificing love described in 1 Corinthians 13:4–7. The command here is to act in love to meet the sexual needs of one’s husband or wife. Though Paul does not address it here, that same sacrificial approach may require not insisting that one’s “conjugal rights” be honored. In other words, the command to be sacrificially loving also encourages spouses not to be demanding or unkind in their sexual relationship.
Second, Paul avoids setting up any parameters. Scripture provides no list, description, or timeframe regarding how a spouse’s marital rights are to be honored. This teaching simply forbids a blanket refusal to participate in sex on some kind of regular basis. Christlike love should be the motive in all things. A spouse should neither withhold themselves sexually nor try to coerce sex from the other.
Finally, in great contrast to the standards of his culture, Paul does not distinguish between men and women here. Both sexes are understood to face sexual temptation. Both are commanded to honor the rights of the other. Although the statement in verse 1, apparently posed by the Corinthians, focuses only on men, Paul makes it perfectly clear in his answer that both husband and wife have sexual rights and both husband and wife must submit to each other in this area of marriage. Once more, Christlike love should be the motive in all things.
First Corinthians 7:1–16 includes Paul’s teaching about sex and marriage for Christians. Some in Corinth apparently thought even married believers should not have sex. Paul rejects that idea, insisting that married Christians belong to each other and should not deprive each other in this way because of the temptation to sexual sin. Also, married believers should not divorce in order to somehow be closer to God. The Lord intends marriage to be for life. Those married to unbelievers may, by staying in the marriage, help lead the other person to Christ.
Paul rejects an idea concerning the Corinthian believers: that married Christians should not have sex. Perhaps some even though marriages should be dissolved and avoided. On the contrary, Scripture says married Christians should have regular sex in order to avoid temptation. Those who are married ought to remain married. Unmarried believers with the gift of celibacy, however, should consider remaining single in order to avoid the troubles of marriage. That is Paul’s personal preference, though that gift is not given to all others. Single believers can devote themselves to serving Christ without distraction. The time is short. All believers should live and serve Christ now as if this world is passing away